So I’m reviewing over some of the shots I took from a recent wedding and there was an activity that occurred during the reception that really struck my heart and I absolutely loved. I by no means am worthy to give marriage advice.. I’ll be a newlywed myself in 30 something days… that doesn’t give me counseling rights… but I have observed tons of couples on their wedding day and entering into the first steps of the rest of their lives… so I’d thought I’d share some heart-felt thoughts on the matter.
So back to this activity… so after the anniversary dance, which I love, (everyone should always celebrate successful marriages,) the DJ proceeded to call up a newlywed couple, a couple that had been married for 20ish years, and the couple that had been married for 40+ years, or something along those lines. The DJ then set it up to feature the “Progression of the kiss.” He asked each couple to show how they as married couples kiss. The crowd loved it first of all! The newlyweds were up to bat first and with two hands wrapped around each others faces they kissed while blushing afterwards! The next 20+ years couple pronounced they had kids at home and this was their night out, the husband grabbed his beautiful wife and magically held her and kissed, with the crowd roaring at the passion! The next 40+ couple was next. The DJ asked them if they had kids, they replied with laughing smiles, all grown up kids all moved out, and with kids of their own. Then the DJ asked them to demonstrate a kiss after 40+ years of marriage… the couple matched the passion of all younger couples and completely stole the show as everyone loved seeing such love at an older age. While this was a short and fun activity I really loved the essence behind it.
In wedding photography I’m always trying to meet the eyes of approval of editorial bliss. Creative details, romantic sun filled couple sessions, stunning imagery, perfect lighting, etc. etc. I’m always learning and always wanting to do better. It gets exhausting at times trying to define who I am in a world of thousands, but when I take a step back and realize just how far I’ve come and how these moments happen in everyone’s lives, it’s a blessing to realize what I get to do everyday. I don’t do this job for the magazine title or the best of the best cause those moments come and go and they are always there. I do it to capture the day of these wonderful couples just starting out! I get to see 40+ couples full of passion and love and showing an example of how to keep creating your own love story that’s not always Pinterest worthy or Instagramed. The wedding photography doesn’t continue as you find your first home, battle your first feuds, raise kids, steal away on that second honeymoon, battle loss, battle hardships, deal with life, etc. etc. But you get to look back and see where you’ve started and how far you’ve come and you can still find that passion and that wedding day bliss that is the most important thing to capture and remember! Life keeps going and love can become greater!
I know this is a scattered thought process and mixed in story, but I just wanted to share my pondering with you all!
The Progression of the Kiss.